I don’t care what anybody says its hard being a dad and there aren’t any exceptions. Even if your a guy that knocked up a chick and mutually decided that being together as a couple isn’t an option (given your not a fuckin douche bag) you blokes have the biggest challenges of all being a part time dad trying to make a full time impact.
Shit gets real when you become a dad, you are now the provider for an innocent young person, you are a key influencer in the childs life, you need to focus on the bigger picture of where your family is going to go and importantly how the hell are you going to get there!
I spoke with a buddy of mine recently and I was thankful but also surprised when he opened up about how much he is struggling at the moment. His missus has ventured off into a new career and giving it all of her effort, getting home most nights at 8pm. All the while he is picking the kids up, feeding them, bathing them, entertaining them and getting them off to bed. The constant repetition is etching away at him and starting to mentally drain him.
Here is an opportunity where communication is essential and sitting down with your wife and sharing your struggles may just be the reality check the situation needed.
As a dad there is also the constant stress for some of keeping the bacon rolling into the bank each week. Hustling your arse off during the day to keep yourself in a job or go on the hunt for one. On top of this stress we try not to get to fat, exercise when we can be bothered, see a doctor when we get that strange pain, give attention to our kids and try to keep our women satisfied by being the man she married.
Again guys I just want you all to know that we are all going through similar things day in and day out.
If there is one thing that I have learnt but don’t always practice myself until I realise and give myself an upper cut its that “where ever you are, be there!”
Meaning if you are at work keep your head down, arse up and the bacon coming. If your sitting in the lounge room with your family be there mentally and emotionally not just physically. I too am guilty of sitting in the lounge room scrolling through Facebook, eBay, Gumtree with no actual money to buy shit. What I should be doing is sitting down and mucking around with the kids.
Where ever you are, be there!
Life is short but feels long, lets make the most of the time we have.