I literally had this light bulb moment while driving to a meeting last week listening to the “Self Made Man” podcast by Mike Dillard. I had this realization that just about all dads along their journey experience some of the highest of highs and then some down right fuckin’ shitty moments. I thought to myself there has to be some blogs or articles that relate to the lives of dads and said to myself “fuck it” I will start one myself.
A while ago i started using the hashtag #dadlife on Instagram and when I looked at the tag I saw over a million uses of that tag and it just really hit me that there is a world of a dad’s out there that love their kids more than anything else in this world and made me really want to pursue this blog even more.
So who am I and how’d I get here;
I am a 26 year old slightly over weight dad to 2 beautiful boys, they give me the sense of purpose I had always been looking for in life. But like anything else in life they cause me to have those moments of anger and frustration bottled up inside thinking “fuck I’d love to just get away for a while” and as a dad for most of us we just bury those feelings deep down, take a deep breathe and get the hell on with it.
My dad was and is an interstate truck driver, on average I would have been lucky to spend 100 days of physical time with him each year. But that’s what dads did and still do nowadays, they do what they chose to to provide for their family and no one should ever punish them for doing so.
It is safe to say that I would not be the man I am today without my dad and regardless of being on the road or not his ability to parent never lacked. I have so much respect and gratitude for my dad words can’t even begin to describe. I am lucky just to be able to have my dad still in my life and giving my 2 boys a grand dad that they will remember forever. I hope that he reads this just to see how much of an impact he has made to my life. (I appreciate you so much Dad if you are reading this and I am sorry that I have let the busyness of my family life put a lot of time between when we see each other)
Now after I just wrote that I had a thought, because I am literally winging this at the moment. I believe the number one weakness of all dads is communication and I think it is an area we all need to give some attention to. So what do I mean by communication and how will it make us a better dad or man?
GET OUT OF YOUR FUCKIN COMFORT ZONE AND COMMUNICATE! That’s what i mean. Most men/dads and this included myself for a period of time refuse to communicate with their wives, girlfriends, mothers, baby mummas and even their own dads and sons out of the fear that it isn’t manly.
If your not feeling yourself get help!
If you love someone tell them!
If you are grateful for someone show it!
If you are struggling, reach out and get some god damn help!
Please fella’s don’t bottle it up, or bury it deep inside – reach out and you will be amazed at the support you get.
I am no guru I’m just a bloke who is figuring this shit out along the way and learning from people around me.
I thank you so much for reading my first blog, I really appreciate your support and time.
The goal is to have an active #dadlife Facebook page and Facebook group in the near future but until then either share this blog or if you have a buddy that you have a hunch is struggling in anyway just reach out and give your support.
Until next time.